Aug 4, 2011

FAT GUY vs. FIT: Won't he ever give up?

Back in April I wrote a post, Fat Guy vs. Fit (The voices of my inner struggles). In the post I wrote about how EVERY time I would go to the gym, I would try and talk myself out of doing cardio. Luckily Fat Guy has yet to win the argument since I started on this journey But what gets me is that even after all this time he is still there screaming at me every time I start heading over to the elliptical machine.

There are some battles that Fat Guy doesn't even try to argue about now. Drinking Mt. Dew, eating fast food and watching 4 hours of T.V. at a time are all things he has given up on. He knows it just ain't happening. I have come to realize there is some stuff that he will just never give up on though.

There are only 2 things you can do when you come to the realization that your inner fat person will never give up on something.

  1. You can continue yelling "SHUT UP!" to that inner voice every time it starts screaming. It does get easier to shut out the voice but it will always be there for that day you are tired, hungry and emotionally spent.
  2. Take away the power the voice has over you.
How do I take away my Fat Guy's power? I am glad you asked.

To render the Fat Guy voice in your head you simply make the changes necessary so you are not put in the situation of having to listen. While it all inner voices are different there are a few things you can do to mute the voice before it even has a chance to get a peep out.

Making the choice to be fit is something that proceeds doing what is required to get fit. Maybe it is something as simple as laying out your clothes for the gym the night before. If you want to give Fat Guy a megaphone, wait to make the decision to go on a 6AM run at 5:45. Planning to exercise with someone is another easy way to render the voice powerless. Those who fail to plan, plan to fight Fat Guy.

For me, this meant running to and from the gym. I was sick of the same old internal struggle every time I got on the elliptical machine. Our gym, Crossroads Fitness is a perfect distance from my house that I can warm up on the way there and kick some butt running a different way (longer) home. I have taken the choice away. I HAVE TO do cardio if I want to get home. Discussion over.

The same goes with food. Fat Guy LOVES when I eat pasta. It's a "trigger" food for me. He knows that regardless of how much my stomach has shrunk over time or how much will power I have, there is a chance he can get me to listen to him and binge. Back in the day I would eat 2 giant plates of spaghetti. I would be so full my stomach would hurt and I would continue eating it until I felt like I was going to vomit. (no laughing Hank) Today, I simply don't eat pasta except for a rare, pre-measured portion situation. The simplest way to stop your Fat Guy from saying "Eat more pasta ya blithering boob!" is to not eat pasta.

Fit guy is my friend. He hangs out in the land of fit blogs, at the gym and by the water cooler. If I have been talking with Fit Guy all day, it's easy to not be distracted by Fat Guy. If I exercise, eat balanced, nutritious meals and drink my water, Fit Guy is talking so loud in my ear, I can't even hear Fat Guy when he talks. When I get in a slump, it's easy for me to decide my slump will be over after I eat something I shouldn't or skip just one planned work out. Good choices increase the likelihood that the next choice will be good as well.

How do you shut up your Fat Guy?


  1. Good post. I have been trying to examine the emotions behind my eating this year, but I haven't really checked myself on the thoughts that hold me back from exercising. I think that's definitely something I need to do! I've lost more than 40 lbs., but I'm hoping to lose another 15 to 20. I am not good at consistently exercising. Time to put my inner Fat Girl on notice.

    For me, I've been trying to find things that I enjoy doing that count as exercise. (I actually wrote about this yesterday: But at some point, I'm going to have to strive to make exercise a way of life, like measuring food, or eating a light dinner if I ate a heavy lunch. You give some good ideas for starting to do that. One is getting out more. I didn't sit in front of the TV for 4 hours, but I definitely sit in front of the computer too much.
    Thanks for the advice, and I wish you the best on continued weight loss!

  2. I guess I'm just weird, but I THRIVE on negative motivation. When I get the depressed, apathetic Will going round and round in my head, the one thing I can count on motivating me - if I let myself start that fire - is reminding myself of all the awesome, spectacular things I've missed out on because of my weight and my general don't care attitude.

    And that makes me angry and forces me to turn all those temptations and bad feelings into one big f*** you to who I've been in the past.

    Which feels pretty good.

  3. This is a great post, Mike. I'm going to be blogging later today about my newest plans. I've discovered that for me, a strict plan is absolutely essential if I want to succeed--in anything! Thanks for writing.

  4. I have that Fat Girl in my head screaming at me from time to time. When I first started on my journey, I had a problem with pushing myself beyond my comfort zone when it comes to cardio. I would do it painstakingly, but as soon as I got tired or started to feel uncomfortable in any way I would pull back. The voice in my head would tell me "Oh thats enough" "You know you are tired" among other things. Its been 9 weeks since I started and that Fat Chick in my head has become much quieter. This is an awesome post!

  5. Love this post (and love the graphics, too!)! Thoughtful. For me I have found that the best way to quiet that inner voice is to make exercise a habit and just do it each and every day. I try to get out right away in the morning before my inner voice can start all the laundry list of excuses. This works quite well for me, especially now in the summer. I also have grown to love what I am doing (cycling) which helps alot. Stay strong, Mike. michele

  6. PREPARE! That's my biggest problem. I can grocery shop for all the good foods, then I don't make them, prepare them, or pack them for lunches or dinner.

    I shut my fat girl up by putting on my rollerblades or running shoes. Doesn't always work, but it's a start.

  7. Excellent post Mike.

    I shut my fat guy up by doing exactly what you wrote in the last paragraph. I network with fit people, read other fit blogs, stay active in a couple of support groups on FB, etc. Basically, I've just surrounded myself with all things fitness.

    Yes, my fat guy does show his face, and I do have days where he does influence my eating more than fit guy does, but I'm working at it and getting better at it.

    Thanks for an awesome post.

  8. I'm with you. I have to plan what I am going to do a day ahead as far as exercise or the "I want to sleep more" voice kicks in. I don't always love getting up early but I LOVE how I feel the rest of the day and I love being up when it is quiet. Food...(sigh) that one is hard. Figuring out your trigger foods is definitely important because those are the ones that make you feel out of control. I have to measure EVERYTHING for a few weeks to get back on track when I slip off. Great post!

  9. Good post! All I could think when I saw the pictures was, "Get in my belly!" (Of course it's in a Scottish accent too.


  10. by wearing very tight clothes and going to the gym and hopping on an elliptical next to the fittest gal take s away the urge to eat popcorn, that is for sure. exercise, exercise, exercise. It keeps me in line.